Asking for money instead of gifts: Is it appropriate? #WW #Wedding Wednesday TIP

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 "Is it tacky to ask for money instead of 
gifts on my invitations?  

It's becoming more and more common that couples are asking for cash instead of  wedding gifts. It's actually easier for your guests so they don't have to look through pages and pages on a registry. It's also easier for the couple because most are combining households or already live together. They can purchase items that they need or put the money toward their honeymoon. 

It's inappropriate to ask for money on invitations however there is a way to do it without offending your guests.  Most couples have a "Wishing Well Wedding".  A Wishing Well Wedding is a way to ask for cash in lieu of gifts. Guests are expected to bring cash or gift cards to place in the well.

When sending out your invitations you will want to include a note card with a cute poem. Depending on your wedding style the poem can have some humor to it or not. 

We have included a few samples to choose from.

They have their dishes and towels for two 
They have pots and pans and oven mitts too 
So what do you get for the Bride & Groom 
Whose house is setup in every room? 
Their house needs repairs and some upgrades too 
But you can not register for carpet and glue. 
A well that holds wishes is the way to go 
So lets make it easy for all that know. 
An envelope will be provided for those who have room, 
To give a monetary wish to the Bride and Groom
A wishing well will be on display at the reception hall 
To attach your wishes, for the couple, with love from all.

Because at first we lived in sin 
We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin 
A gift from you would be swell 
But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!!

Soon you will hear our wedding bell,
As Friends and family wish us well.
Our household thoughts are not brand new,
We have twice the things we need for two.
Since we have our share of dishes and bedding,
We're having instead a wishing well wedding.
But more important we ask of you,
your prayers of love and blessings too!

Here are a few more websites you can view poems for your upcoming event.

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  1. Those are some very cute poems, thank you so much for sharing!

  2. I think this is a very good suggestion since it is also too bad to know that your gift will just be kept since there are a lot of the guests who gave the same gift. Though the thought is there but it can be of a great help for couples to be to use the money for something they plan.

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